But Are You Happy?

What does happiness mean to you? Are you happy right now? Claire Murphy sits down with Clare Stephens to talk about what we learned from Season 1 of But Are You Happy? PLUS, we hear from Clare's twin Jessie Stephens on how Episode 0 impacted her. THE END BITS Subscribe to Mamamia GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au CREDITS: Host: Clare Stephens Guest: Claire Murphy Executive Producer: Tia Ucich Producer: Clare O’Halloran Audio Producer: Leah Porges Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300…

You know that feeling when you open your group chat and there are 287 unread messages... so you immediately close it again? Whether you're the ghost who never replies, the lurker silently catching up on conversations, or the friend who feels guilty every time they leave someone on read, you're not alone. Group chats were supposed to make us feel more connected, so why do they leave so many of us feeling overwhelmed instead? In this episode of But Are You Happy?, host Ashani Dante is joined by Milly Rose Bannister, award-winning founder of the youth mental health charity ALLKND, to unpack the hidden psychology behind group chat overwhelm and why staying connected can sometimes feel like another item on your to-do list. Together, they explore why our brains aren't built for constant digital communication, the fear of social rejection that keeps us checking our notifications, and the emotional labour involved in reading tone, self-editing and trying to keep everyone happy. The conversation also explores why…

Have you ever replayed a conversation over and over in your head, convinced someone was criticising you? Or spiralled after your boss said, "Can we have a chat?" only to discover it was nothing at all? The truth is, our brains are wired to take things personally. But that doesn't mean every awkward interaction, delayed reply or offhand comment is actually about you. In this episode of But Are You Happy?, host Ashani Dante is joined by clinical psychologist Anita Shimmins to unpack why we take things so personally, where those reactions come from, and how we can stop letting them control our relationships and self-worth. Together, they explore why our brains interpret social rejection as a threat to our survival, how childhood experiences, attachment styles and past trauma shape the stories we tell ourselves, and why social media makes it even harder to separate fact from fiction. The conversation also explores why criticism hurts so much, how to tell the difference between what actually happened and the…

Have you ever wondered why modern life can leave us feeling so disconnected, even when we're doing everything we're told should make us feel well? This NAIDOC Week, But Are You Happy? explores a different way of understanding mental health — one grounded in connection, community and relationships rather than simply treating illness. In this episode, host Ashani Dante is joined by proud Gamilaraay man, psychologist and Director of First Nations Strategy at the Black Dog Institute, Dr Clinton Schultz. Together, they unpack what First Nations perspectives on social and emotional wellbeing can teach all of us about living healthier, more connected lives. Clinton shares his own extraordinary journey from childhood trauma and addiction to becoming one of Australia's leading voices on First Nations mental health. He explains why Aboriginal concepts of wellbeing begin with relationships — to ourselves, to each other, to Country and to community — and why those connections have been central to keeping First Nations…

You’ve probably heard the advice to "trust your gut." But what happens when your gut missed something that broke your heart? Whether you've been cheated on, lied to, blindsided by someone you loved, or simply had your trust shaken, rebuilding it can feel impossible. Not just trust in other people, but trust in yourself. In this episode of But Are You Happy?, host Ashani Dante is joined once again by clinical psychotherapist Sarah Bays to unpack what trust actually is, why betrayal can completely dismantle our sense of safety, and how we begin putting ourselves back together afterwards. Together, they explore why rebuilding trust isn't about pretending you'll never get hurt again, but learning to believe you'll survive if you do. Sarah explains the difference between trusting others and trusting yourself, why rushing to forgive can sometimes delay healing, and how to tell the difference between genuine remorse and empty apologies. They also unpack the role our childhood plays in shaping how we trust, the…

You’ll want to send this episode to your friends who are perpetually exhausted, overcommitted, or anyone whose version of "rest" is actually just deep scrolling on the couch while their mind continues to run at 100 miles an hour. Did you know that sleep doesn't automatically equal recovery? Or have you noticed that after a supposedly lazy weekend, you sometimes wake up on Monday morning feeling more depleted than you did on Friday night? In this episode of But Are You Happy?, host Ashani Dante sits down with clinical psychologist, speaker, and mental health consultant Shuktika Bose to explore why modern rest no longer feels restorative. We go beyond the superficial self-care trends to uncover the psychological gap between simply stopping your body and actually switching off your brain. Together, they discuss why your nervous system keeps draining your battery like 40 background apps running on a phone, even when you are physically lying still. They break down the seven distinct types of rest, revealing why…

You’ll want to send this episode to every friend who casually drops the phrase "I'm so depressed" when they're just having a bad day, or anyone trying to figure out where normal sadness ends and something much heavier begins. Have you noticed how casually we throw around major mental health terms over coffee, accidentally minimizing a condition that deeply impacts both the brain and the body? In this episode of But Are You Happy?, host Ashani Dante sits down with clinical psychologist Julie Chapman to explore the complex reality of depression. We go beyond the casual slang to uncover what it truly means. Together, they discuss the danger of casual language and why confusing ordinary sadness with a clinical episode does a disservice to both. Julie breaks down why depression looks completely different from the outside depending on who is experiencing it, meaning those closest to you might only ever see the tiniest cracks. They look at how a major life shift, like a relationship breakdown or having children,…

Are you being "breadcrumbed" (do you even know what 'breadcrumbing" is?). Are you trapped in a loop of romantic ambiguity, where you're getting just enough intimacy to stay hooked, but left staring at your phone wondering if you're even allowed to call them when you're having a bad day? In this episode of But Are You Happy, host Ashani Dante talks with clinical psychotherapist Sarah Bays to pull back the curtain on the confusing world of situationships. We’re moving beyond the surface level to explore the psychological tightrope of living in relational limbo, unpacking why we consistently compromise our own needs just to avoid the terrifying discomfort of real vulnerability. Discover more Mamamia Podcasts here. Watch But Are You Happy on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram here. Feedback: podcast@mamamia.com.au Share your story, feedback, or dilemma! Send us a voice message, and one of our Podcast Producers will get back to you ASAP. Rate or review us on Apple by clicking on the three dots in the top right-hand…

You will want to send this episode to your husband, brother, boyfriend, son and all the men in your life. Did you know that some online influencers use a rented facade of Lamborghinis and mansions just to trap young men into harmful algorithmic loops? Or have you noticed the boys in your life changing how they act the second they are in a group? In this episode of But Are You Happy, host Ashani Dante sits down with guest Ben Vasilou, CEO of The Man Cave, to pull back the curtain on the rise of the manosphere and modern masculinity. We’re moving beyond the surface level to explore the real-world harm this toxic content has on young people and our personal relationships. Together, they dive into how the manosphere operates as a lucrative business model targeting the isolation of young men, while sharing practical ways guys can find the courage to call out their mates' bad behaviour in everyday moments. The episode also addresses the heavy emotional burden of shame and fear that well-intentioned men carry,…

Ever feel like staying up for hours perfecting a single email, or completely paralyzed by the fear of failing at a new project? In this episode of But Are You Happy, host Ashani Dante pulls back the curtain on the sneaky reality of chronic perfectionism. We’re moving beyond the surface level to explore the inner turmoil and emotional load that comes with tying your entire self-worth to your performance. Joining the conversation is clinical psychologist Anita Shimmins from Inlight Psychology to unpack why we carry this deep underlying fear of failure and how it subtly infiltrates our work, our parenting, and our relationships. Together, Ashani and Anita explore why perfectionism is actually a protective coping strategy built to shield us from shame. You will learn the distinct psychological archetypes of perfectionism, how chronic pressure can show up physically in the body, and why hitting a major life goal often brings a temporary wave of relief rather than true joy. More importantly, this episode breaks…

A new season of But Are You Happy? Is coming your way. You told us you wanted deep-dive, informative conversations with leading experts about all the things impacting your self-development and mental health. We got you. You’ll be hearing from experts such as Sarah Bays, Millie Rose Bannister and Ben Vasilou, on topics ranging from situationships, navigating tricky group chats, and pushing back against perfectionism. Same great show, new conversations. Don’t forget to click “follow” [+] on your podcast app so you don’t miss a thing. Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Struggling to say no... to anyone? In this bonus episode, Ashani delivers the pep talk you need to start advocating for yourself and setting healthier boundaries, whether it’s at work, with friends, or with the people asking a little too much of you right now. Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN TOUCH Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to hear your dilemmas—think of it as free therapy! Listen to more Mamamia podcasts here. Did you know some of our shows are now in video on the Apple Podcast app? Make sure your phone is up to date and check it out here! Win a $2,000 Bed Threads voucher. Subscribe to Mamamia here before April 30 to be automatically entered. Current subscriber? You're already in the draw. T&Cs apply. CREDITS: Host: Ashani Dante Senior…

In this bonus episode, Ashani gives you a reassuring pep talk for when you're feeling anxious before a presentation, event, or any situation that feels overwhelming, and the self-talk shifts that can help you calm your nerves and show up anyway. Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN TOUCH Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to hear your dilemmas—think of it as free therapy! Listen to more Mamamia podcasts here. Did you know some of our shows are now in video on the Apple Podcast app? Make sure your phone is up to date and check it out here! Win a $2,000 Bed Threads voucher. Subscribe to Mamamia here before April 30 to be automatically entered. Current subscriber? You're already in the draw. T&Cs apply. CREDITS: Host: Ashani Dante Senior Producer: Tahli…

In this bonus episode, Dr Anastasia Hronis offers a calming 10-minute reset to help you step out of the chaos of daily life. This guided exercise invites you to engage your senses: sight, touch, and sound, to ground your attention. If your mind wanders, that’s okay. Gently bring it back and continue. A practical, soothing way to reconnect with the present moment. Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN TOUCH Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to hear your dilemmas—think of it as free therapy! Listen to more Mamamia podcasts here. Did you know some of our shows are now in video on the Apple Podcast app? Make sure your phone is up to date and check it out here! Win a $2,000 Bed Threads voucher. Subscribe to Mamamia here before April 30 to be automatically…

Have you ever “set a boundary” because a TikTok told you it was the only way to protect your peace? In this episode of But Are You Happy, hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpack the idea of weaponised boundaries and explore how to tell whether yours are healthy gates or rigid walls that might be keeping people out unnecessarily. You’ll also learn: How to identify the boundaries that are actually right for you How to communicate your needs clearly without turning the other person into the villain Why resentment is often a key sign that you’ve been ignoring your own boundaries Why “no contact” can be an important tool for safety, but shouldn’t be used as a shortcut to avoid difficult conversations Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN TOUCH Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a…

Have you ever caught your reflection, noticed a new grey hair or a random ache, and felt that sudden wave of existential dread about where the time has gone? In this episode of But Are You Happy, hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpack the physical realities of ageing, explore how death anxiety fuels our worries, and share healthier ways to relate to the passage of time. You’ll also learn: Why your biological age doesn’t always match how old you feel How to slow the “quickening” of time by breaking out of rigid routines How to acknowledge and process the quiet grief of outgrowing your younger self Ways to find perspective and empowerment by connecting with your elders Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN TOUCH Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are…

Have you noticed the word narcissist being thrown around a lot lately and found yourself wondering whether someone’s actually a narcissist… or just unpleasant? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis breaks down what narcissism really is, how to recognise it, and what you can do if there’s a narcissist in your life. You’ll also learn: Where Narcissistic Personality Disorder comes from The key red flags and behaviours to watch for in a narcissistic relationship How to navigate life with a narcissist, whether it’s a partner, friend, or family member The difference between a narcissist you can manage and one who can't be reasoned with If you or someone you know is impacted by domestic, family, or sexual violence, you can contact 1800RESPECT — the national counselling and support service — on 1800 737 732. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental…

Have you ever been told you’re “too much” or “too sensitive,” only to find yourself caught in an exhausting cycle - loving someone intensely one moment, then wanting to push them away the next? In this episode of But Are You Happy, hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpack Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) with clarity and compassion. They explore the why behind the intense emotional swings and relationship struggles that define BPD, shifting the conversation away from judgment and toward real clinical understanding. You’ll also learn: How BPD develops What’s happening in the brain and body when emotions take longer to settle after a trigger How healing involves balancing self-acceptance with meaningful behavioural change Why BPD isn’t a fixed “label,” and what recovery can actually look like Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental…

Do you ever notice that inner voice—the one that’s quick to judge or put you down, even though you’d never speak to a friend that way? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis talks about how to deal with your inner critic, especially when it starts affecting your mental health, and how to start building a more supportive voice instead. You'll also learn: Where that critical voice comes from Whether it gets easier to manage as we get older Signs someone might be struggling with self-worth Practical ways to build self-compassion If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to hear your dilemmas—think of it as free therapy! CREDITS: Hosts: Ashani Dante & Dr Anastasia Hronis Executive Producer: Naima Brown Senior Producer: Tahli…

Where do you stand on AI? Are you all in, a little nervous, or still figuring it out? Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle - curious, cautious, and ready to see what it really means for us. In this episode of But Are You Happy, hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis go past the headlines to explore the psychology of AI. They look at how these tools aren’t just changing what we do - they’re changing how we think, solve problems, and even seek emotional connection. You’ll also learn: Why leaning on chatbots might be weakening your problem-solving skills How reflecting more and embracing messy drafts can protect your creativity Why AI can make us feel so “seen” How AI voices, not just text, can trigger the brain’s bonding chemicals Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN TOUCH Want to get in touch with us? DM…

Why do we form one-sided bonds with people we've never met? In this episode of But Are You Happy, hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis pull back the curtain on parasocial relationships and how the digital age has blurred the lines between "fan" and "friend." You'll also learn: Practical questions to ask yourself if your celeb obsession is getting… unhealthy Why we turn to one-sided relationships to meet emotional needs How most parasocial relationships aren't actually "creepy" - they're just an extension of our social evolution (until they aren’t) How to cultivate healthy engagement with online personalities Watch the podcast on YouTube here. Get a 50% OFF DISCOUNT to see us at DomeFest. Link here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN TOUCH Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to…

Have you ever thought to yourself, “Why am I reacting exactly like my mother right now?” In this episode of But Are You Happy, hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis pull back the curtain on intergenerational trauma. We’re moving beyond the surface level to explore the "ghosts" in your DNA - the ones that make you react to a minor inconvenience like it’s a family-wide emergency. You'll also learn: How trauma is physically passed down through your genes Why the goal isn't to "delete" your difficult parts How to determine if you grew up in a "military-grade" or "survival of the fittest" household Ways to notice the patterns of intergenerational trauma to avoid repeating them Watch the podcast on YouTube here. Get a 50% OFF DISCOUNT to see us at DomeFest. Link here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN TOUCH Want to get in touch with us? DM…

Do you ever feel like you’re falling behind in life? You’re not the only one quietly wondering about the timeline. In this episode, Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis explore the “quiet grief” that can arise when life looks different from the one you once planned. You'll also learn: How to embrace "identity plasticity" Practical ways to distinguish between being "behind" your own goals versus someone else's Why it’s valid to mourn the "alternate version" of your life How to balance self-compassion with taking steps toward the things you can control Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN TOUCH Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to hear your dilemmas—think of it as free therapy! Listen to more Mamamia podcasts here. CREDITS:…

Are you happy? Oh. Sorry. Was that too direct? It’s a simple question, but it tends to make people shift in their seats. In this episode of But Are You Happy?, Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Anastasia Hronis finally unpack the very question that inspired the podcast and, somehow, until now, we’ve never properly answered. Together, they explore: The difference between hedonic and eudaimonic happiness Why contentment might matter more than constant joy How social media and external validation can distort our idea of happiness A simple framework to help you cultivate more intentional, values-aligned joy Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to hear your dilemmas—think of it as free therapy! Listen to more Mamamia…

Does your chest tighten every time you open your phone lately? Do you feel like the world is on fire and you’re somehow supposed to just keep going to work, answer emails, and “stay informed”? In this episode of But Are You Happy, host Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpack what it actually means to live in the age of information overload. From clickbait headlines and doom-scrolling at 11pm, they explore how constant exposure to bad news impacts our nervous systems and why so many of us are feeling helpless, hopeless, or just emotionally exhausted. You'll also learn: The psychological difference between helplessness and hopelessness Why your brain is wired to latch onto threatening news How chronic exposure to bad headlines activates your stress response Practical ways to buffer yourself without becoming disengaged Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available…

Does the idea of a networking event make your stomach do backflips while your friends seem to thrive in the chaos? In this season finale of But Are You Happy, host Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis pull back the curtain on our social personalities. We’re moving beyond the simple labels to find out where you actually sit on the spectrum and why "summer social season" can feel so different for everyone. You'll also learn: The five major personality traits and how extroversion fits in Why the "chaotic middle" might be exactly where you land The clinical red flags to look out for Why walking a banana on a leash (yes, really) is a legitimate way to overcome the fear of being judged Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our…

Have you ever looked at a fandom, wellness community, or online movement and thought… this feels a little culty? In this episode of But Are You Happy, host Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis unpack why the word cult gets thrown around so easily and what actually separates cults from fandoms like Swifties, Beliebers, or other high-devotion communities. You’ll also learn: What a cult actually is (and why there’s no single definition) Why charismatic leaders hold so much power How belonging, meaning, and identity make people vulnerable to high-demand groups What “cult-like” red flags to look out for, including isolation, fear, shame, and groupthink Why it can be so hard to leave a cult, even when doubts creep in Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on…

Do you ever feel like you’re constantly the one listening, supporting, and showing up for others, until one day you hit a wall and think, I can't do this anymore? In this episode of But Are You Happy, host Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis unpack empathy fatigue; why being the “strong,” supportive one can leave you emotionally drained, and how to tell the difference between compassion and burnout. You’ll also learn: What empathy fatigue actually is (and why it’s more common than you think) How constant emotional labour impacts your mental health Why setting boundaries doesn’t make you selfish Practical ways to protect your energy while still caring about others Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready…

Navigating family and friends you might not agree with can be… a lot. It’s the season of parties, BBQs, long lunches, and gatherings you may have been voluntold to attend, and with that often comes complicated family dynamics and people you might have very mixed feelings about seeing. In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis and co-host Ashani Dante share practical tools for navigating difficult conversations, setting boundaries, and showing up in a way that feels better for you this season. You’ll also learn: Why family comments can hit such a big nerve Why we fall back into old family roles so easily How to avoid erupting in difficult conversations What topics are safe to talk about with someone who has different politics Watch the podcast on YouTube here. And if you’re looking for more to listen to - every Mamamia podcast is curating your summer listening right across our network from pop culture to beauty to powerful interviews, there’s something for everyone.…

Money, money, money. Spending on gifts, travel, food, and everything else feels almost unavoidable around the holiday periods. But what about the stress and panic that hits every time you open Apple Pay or tap your card at the checkout? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis and co-host Ashani Dante unpack the financial pressures of the holidays. They’ll also share practical ways to shift your focus from consumption to connection, helping you enjoy the season without the overwhelm. You’ll also learn: Why we feel pressured to “keep up” with peers when it comes to generosity and gift-giving The psychology of money and how your upbringing shapes your financial mindset Real examples of how money influences attitudes and behaviour How to avoid FOMO and set healthy limits around your spending Watch the podcast on YouTube here. And if you’re looking for more to listen to - every Mamamia podcast is curating your summer listening right across our network from pop culture to…

We want to have some honest conversations to support you through events where alcohol is present and maybe even invite you to consider a sober-curious 2026. In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis and co-host Ashani Dante explore the psychology of alcohol: why social drinking becomes such a big part of the holidays, and how you can approach this time of year more mindfully. You’ll also learn: How alcohol affects the brain and the body How alcohol impacts men and women differently The social psychology of drinking and why it feels hard not to What a sober curious lifestyle looks like Watch the podcast on YouTube here. And if you’re looking for more to listen to - every Mamamia podcast is curating your summer listening right across our network from pop culture to beauty to powerful interviews, there’s something for everyone. Listen here: https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/ Subscribe to be in the running to WIN THE ULTIMATE SUMMER HOLIDAY: Royal Caribbean Cruise…

Thought bullies would disappear after high school? Turns out, those people grow older, but don’t always grow up. Now they’re the ones causing trouble at work, in social circles, and even at events. Unfortunately, bullying in adulthood is far more common than many of us realise. In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis and co-host Ashani Dante break down why adult bullying happens and share practical strategies for dealing with it. You’ll also learn: Why people bully, and who tends to be their targets How people who are being bullied are impacted What the bystander effect is How to reclaim your voice after experiencing bullying Watch the podcast on YouTube here. Subscribe to be in the running to WIN THE ULTIMATE SUMMER HOLIDAY: Royal Caribbean Cruise Giveaway! Click here for more information If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support.…

Have you experienced grief? Most of us have. We often think of grief as something we feel when someone passes away, and that’s true, but we also grieve friendships that fade, jobs we lose, or opportunities that slip away. So is there really a “right” or “wrong” way to grieve? We’re not so sure. What we do know is that grief brings a whole mix of emotions, along with pressure to “move on” or “accept” before we’re ready. But grief is a process, not a deadline. In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis and co-host Ashani Dante explore grief in all its forms, and what healthy versus unhealthy grieving can look like. You’ll also learn: What the 5 stages of grief are and why they matter Why your grieving process is unique to you How to grieve in a healthy way What closure looks like and whether finding it is helpful Watch the podcast on YouTube here. Subscribe to be in the running to WIN THE ULTIMATE SUMMER HOLIDAY: Royal Caribbean Cruise Giveaway! Click here for more…

Ever caught yourself doing 10 other things around the house instead of locking in and focusing on the one task or goal you really need to complete? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis and co-host Ashani Dante talk all about that relatable thing of procrastination. Anastasia breaks down what's really going on in the brain when we put things off and why it happens in the first place. You’ll also learn: The difference between productive and perfectionist procrastination How to adapt your environment to become more productive How to start building more momentum Why it's important to be kind to your inner critic when setting important goals Watch the podcast on YouTube here. Subscribe to be in the running to WIN THE ULTIMATE SUMMER HOLIDAY: Royal Caribbean Cruise Giveaway! Click here for more information If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental…

Do you think you might have OCD and are wondering whether you need a diagnosis? Or do you already know you’re living with it and feel frustrated by the myths, stereotypes, and misunderstandings that surround it? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis breaks down what OCD actually is, how it shows up in everyday life, and the evidence-based treatments that can genuinely help. You’ll also learn: The different types of obsessive themes that can occur with OCD How intrusive thoughts and compulsions operate and impact daily life What to do if you think you might have OCD How clinical psychologists use Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) in therapy Watch the podcast on YouTube here. Subscribe to be in the running to WIN THE ULTIMATE SUMMER HOLIDAY: Royal Caribbean Cruise Giveaway! Click here for more information If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential…

Are you someone who just can’t put your phone down? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis explores how constant phone use can affect both our mental and physical well-being—and what we can do to build healthier habits. You'll also learn: Why our phones are designed to be so addictive Whether social media is helping us connect or pulling us further apart Simple ways to cut back on screen time How to pause the doom-scrolling cycle Family tech agreements: eSafety website resource. Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Help us understand how you're looking after your mental health. Complete our short survey here for a chance to win a $1,000 gift voucher in our quarterly draw! Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to hear…

Ever feel like making friends as an adult is… weirdly awkward? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis talks about how to actually make new friends once you’re out of school and why having strong, genuine connections matters more than ever. You'll also learn: How loneliness can impact your mental AND physical health The roadblocks that stop us from forming new connections as adults How to find community through practical avenues Ways to get comfortable with not everyone liking you Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Help us understand how you're looking after your mental health. Complete our short survey here for a chance to win a $1,000 gift voucher in our quarterly draw! Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to hear…

The podcast for anyone who’s perfected the nervous laugh and mastered the art of avoiding eye contact — But Are You Happy — is back with more free mental health advice (the good kind). Our brand-new season drops Saturday, November 15. Join co-hosts Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis as they dive back into the real, raw, and relatable conversations about self-development and mental health that you can’t get enough of. Find us on Instagram Learn more about our hosts here: Ashani and Dr. Anastasia THE END BITS Subscribe to Mamamia Watch the podcast on YouTube here. GET IN TOUCH: Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to hear your dilemmas—think of it as free therapy! Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander…

We’ve all been rejected at some point, whether it’s by a romantic partner, a university, a job, a friendship, a sports team... the list goes on. In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis breaks down why rejection hurts so much and how we can start challenging those negative thoughts it stirs up. You'll also learn: What goes on in the brain when we get rejected Why some people bounce back from rejection, while others spiral Why you can feel physical pain from being rejected The three things you should do to make yourself feel better Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Help us understand how you're looking after your mental health. Complete our short survey here for a chance to win a $1,000 gift voucher in our quarterly draw! Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or…

Have you ever said things like “trauma dump” or casually claimed “I’m traumatised”? The word trauma has become kind of a buzzword these days. In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis tells us what trauma really means, what PTSD looks like, and shares some ways people can get support. You'll also learn: The difference between experiencing trauma and having PTSD The various criteria used to diagnose PTSD How cortisol is released in the brain during stressful events The meaning behind terms like trauma dumping, bonding, and more Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Help us understand how you're looking after your mental health. Complete our short survey here for a chance to win a $1,000 gift voucher in our quarterly draw! Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send…

Porn is everywhere, and let’s be honest, watching it is super common. It’s a way a lot of people explore their sexuality. But it’s not all harmless. In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpacks what porn actually does to our brain chemistry, and how it might be influencing our romantic and sexual relationships, often without us even realising. You'll also learn: How porn has become more accessible and why What actually happens to the chemicals in our brain when we watch porn Porn addiction and how it differs from sex addiction How to re-examine a negative relationship to porn and move toward healthier intimacy Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Help us understand how you're looking after your mental health. Complete our short survey here for a chance to win a $1,000 gift voucher in our…

Ever get anxious about “simple” adult tasks, like booking appointments, answering calls, or deciding what to cook, because being a grown-up feels way harder than expected? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpacks "adulthood anxiety" and how to build real confidence AND competence in everyday life. You'll also learn: What age we actually become adults What's going on for you mentally and emotionally when you're transitioning into adulthood Why it's actually important to make mistakes when becoming an adult How to build confidence and confidence when you're so overwhelmed Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Help us understand how you're looking after your mental health. Complete our short survey here for a chance to win a $1,000 gift voucher in our quarterly draw! Want to get in touch…

Have you ever wondered if you might have ADHD but feel nervous about saying it out loud? Or maybe you’ve been diagnosed already, but all you hear are confusing myths? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis is breaking down the many ways ADHD can show up, clearing up some of the biggest myths, and sharing what to do if you think you might need to go and get a diagnosis. You'll also learn: The three types of ADHD and how their symptoms differ How ADHD is actually diagnosed The common myths about ADHD you might have seen on the internet How to manage your ADHD day to day if you've been diagnosed For resources, visit the ADHD Foundation Australia website. Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Help us understand how you're looking after your mental health. Complete our short survey here for a…

Are you in that stage of life where it’s starting to feel like YOU are the parent to your parents? Or maybe it’s always been that way? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpacks parentification and how to recover when your parents have made you the mediator between them or put you in charge of holding onto their emotional baggage. You'll also learn: The emotional and developmental consequences of parentification How you know if you've been 'parentified' Ways you can repair yourself and your relationship with your parents How to identify and acknowledge your inner child Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Help us understand how you're looking after your mental health. Complete our short survey here for a chance to win a $1,000 gift voucher in our quarterly draw! Want to get in touch…

Have you ever had a fight with someone that starts off small but then suddenly turns super personal, like you’re back in primary school, trading playground insults? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis shares how to have what I call a “good fight” — one that’s free from criticism, defensiveness, and all those traps we fall into when emotions run high. You'll also learn: What a bad fight looks like The difference between expressing a complaint and criticising someone The types of negative communication How to have a "good fight" that's fair and respectful Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Help us understand how you're looking after your mental health. Complete our short survey here for a chance to win a $1,000 gift voucher in our quarterly draw! Want to get in touch with us? DM…

With the rise of weight loss injections and the return of skinny culture, it feels like we’re moving backwards in the body positivity movement, right? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpacks what these weight loss injections actually are, how we can start to reframe the idea of the “ideal body,” and the signs that this shift might be taking a toll on your mental—and physical—health. You'll also learn: What these weight loss injections actually are The signs of disordered eating & the different types of eating disorders How to start building a healthier relationship with your body How to navigate the negative body conversations you see on social media Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our…

Have you ever wondered why friendship breakups feel so brutal? Like, worse than a romantic break-up? In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis tells us how to end a friendship without ghosting someone and leaving them wondering what just happened. You'll also learn: How you know it's time to end a friendship When you should reconsider a breakup and set a boundary instead What is ghosting and is it all that bad? How to have a break up conversation that's respectful Watch the podcast on YouTube here. If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to hear your dilemmas—think of it as free therapy! Want to win a $10 e-gift card AND a Mamamia subscription FREE for 1 month? Fill out this short survey. T&Cs apply. CREDITS: Hosts: Ashani…

Need more free therapy? We've got you. Our new season of But Are You Happy is dropping on Saturday, August 16. Join cohosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis AGAIN as they explore all the self-development and mental health topics and challenges that we know you want to learn more about. Find us on Instagram Learn more about our hosts here: Ashani and Dr. Anastasia THE END BITS Subscribe to Mamamia GET IN TOUCH: Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo. Our hosts are ready to hear your dilemmas—think of it as free therapy! CREDITS: Hosts: Ashani Dante & Dr Anastasia Hronis Group Executive Producer: Naima Brown Senior Producer: Tahli Blackman Audio Producer: Jacob Round Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Support the show:…

Introducing I Never Told You This: Two People. One big reveal. A simple card deck with questions. Some are light-hearted, some deeper…and one that says ‘I Never Told You This’ - the chance for one person to share something they’ve never told the other before. In episode eight of ‘I Never Told You This’, Palepa opens up to her mum about the struggle of finding her own way in a strict family — and finally admits she’s been keeping her boyfriend a secret. Head to Medibank to learn more about the Family Roast card game that sparked the conversation. The experiences shared and views expressed are those of the people featured and do not reflect the views of Medibank. This is not health advice. If you or someone you know needs help, you should always consult a trusted health professional. For further support and guidance, visit Medibank Mental Health. Or, if in need of immediate support, call Lifeline on 13 11 14 Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Introducing I Never Told You This: Two People. One big reveal. A simple card deck with questions. Some are light-hearted, some deeper…and one that says ‘I Never Told You This’ - the chance for one person to share something they’ve never told the other before. In episode four of ‘I Never Told You This’, Cristina shares what it’s been like living with anxiety and depression, while Judy opens up about the pressure of raising kids on her own. Head to Medibank to learn more about the Family Roast card game that sparked the conversation. The experiences shared and views expressed are those of the people featured and do not reflect the views of Medibank. This is not health advice. If you or someone you know needs help, you should always consult a trusted health professional. For further support and guidance, visit Medibank Mental Health. Or, if in need of immediate support, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.