Conversations With Candice

"Sometimes 'better' just means whiter, and we have to be willing to analyse that and challenge it. And when it comes to adult boundaries under your parents' roof: sometimes the only way to truly uphold a boundary is to go and build your own." Welcome to Chapter Three, Episode Four of Conversations with Candice! Today Candice leads with a raw, unfiltered monologue on race, class, and education, before diving into an essential dilemma on upholding adult boundaries while living under your parents' roof. 📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access our exclusive Part Two deep-dive on demolishing a 20-year marriage, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today! Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Monologue (When 'Better' Means Whiter): Inspired by Nikole Hannah-Jones' New York Times essay on public vs. selective…

"Content is now. To be content is to be in the still waters of now, not continuously running your head mad with what has been, and not putting tension on what could be." Welcome back to Chapter Three, Episode Three of Conversations with Candice! Today Candice opens up about navigating her luteal phase on HRT, looming book deadlines, and why we must stop robbing ourselves of joy. 📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch full 1-hour video episodes, access exclusive deep-dive discussions, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today! Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma (FOMO, Self-Worth & Being Present): A listener with a great job, an amazing partner, and great friends struggles with severe FOMO, constantly nitpicking moments (even while watching London skyline fireworks or holidaying in Brazil) and worrying that others are having a better…

"You don't want tea, my love. You want your ego stroked. You want a guy in your ear telling you he misses you and loves you and made a mistake, but there ain't no tea here. The kettle is broken." Welcome back to Chapter Three, Episode Two of Conversations with Candice! We are continuing our season on Parental Relationships and boundaries, but today we start with a little foreplay for our audio listeners before diving into some deep family dynamics. 📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT UPDATE: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access deep-dive discussions on maternal estrangement, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today! Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 ('Confused Gal' & The Circling Ex): An ex from 8 years ago randomly messages after building a life with someone else and having a child, claiming he 'loves' her and wants to meet. Candice…

"There is a thin line between hope and stupidity. The hope you once held for your absent father, you are now repackaging and giving to men who will never love you the way you love them." Welcome to Chapter Three of Conversations with Candice! After a well-deserved summer break, Candice is back in your ears to launch an explosive, deeply personal new chapter focused entirely on Parental Relationships—exploring parental estrangement, neglect, abuse, and how our childhood foundations shape our adult lives. 📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT UPDATE: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are now 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access deep-dive discussions, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today! Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Parental Estrangement & Repackaged Hope): A 35-year-old listener reflects on her semi-estranged relationship with her father and why she continually…

"You have to decide what you're worth. Just because someone doesn't agree with what you believe you're worth doesn't mean it changes the worth. What about your life needs an edit?" Welcome to the Chapter Two Finale of Conversations with Candice! We are closing the doors on our season on Love & Relationships with one of the most explosive, crucial episodes yet. 📢 FINAL ANNOUNCEMENT: VIDEO IS MOVING TO SUBSTACK FOR CHAPTER 3! This is your final warning: starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes will live exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack. (Plus, an announcement on Chapter Three's theme: Parental Relationships, Estrangement & Family Dynamics!) Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Financial Abuse, 19-Year Age Gap & Deception): A listener trapped in a 6-year…

"Before you invite someone into your house, you have to get your foundation solid. You can't perform confidence out in the world if you're talking down to yourself inside." Welcome to Chapter Two, Episode Nine of Conversations with Candice! We have arrived at the penultimate episode of our season on Love & Relationships, and we are diving deep into two of the most emotionally charged dilemmas of the entire chapter. 📢 FINAL WARNING FOR CHAPTER THREE: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack. Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Self-Worth & 'Am I Deserving of Love?'): A 33-year-old listener who escaped a toxic situationship that left her in £20k debt asks if there is any hope left for her. Candice breaks down…

"What actually hurts us as humans is expectation. You create your own lust—it takes two to sprinkle a little stardust on the routine." Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Eight of Conversations with Candice! We are just two episodes away from closing out our chapter on Love & Relationships, and today’s episode delivers some of our most passionate, unfiltered debates yet. CHAPTER THREE HOUSEKEEPING REMINDER: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and closed group chat will live solely on Substack. Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Starting a PhD & The Silent Husband): A listener starting her PhD after 10 years of putting her family first feels crushed by her husband's lack of enthusiasm. Candice and Bode unpack the "invisible labour" that holds up a home,…

"Don't you dare give another 20 years. If you pulled yourself up by your bootstraps and put yourself in a good financial position once, you can make shit pop again. Never forget that." Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Seven of Conversations with Candice! Summer holidays are in full swing, stress levels are high, but we are back in the studio answering your most pressing questions about love, compromise, betrayal, and self-worth. 📢 MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT FOR CHAPTER THREE: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack. Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Relocating vs. Staying Put): One partner wants to move abroad while the other wants to stay in the UK. Candice and Bode break down Bode’s "Act of OR vs. Act of AND"…

"Living with a man is not a prerequisite for a good, healthy relationship. Do not let loneliness win in a quiet moment and fill that precious space in your bed with any old flimsy dickhead." Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Six of Conversations with Candice! We are past the halfway mark of our season on Love & Relationships, and today we are tackling three massive, deeply nuanced listener dilemmas that range from dating burnout abroad to bedrooms running dry. Candice and co-producer Uncle Bode take on the Dilemma Inbox to answer the real, unfiltered questions you’re too afraid to ask out loud. How do you stop settling out of fear, how do you protect your mind from social media rage, and how do you reignite intimacy when life gets in the way? Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Voice Note from Sylvia in Indonesia): Single for 4 years, living abroad, and terrified of "dying alone." Candice and Bode break down why cohabitation isn't mandatory for commitment, the value of writing down your "dream…

"Who said a mother's love was fundamental? Preach to me, because we are learning together. What if, before they were our mothers, they were just broken girls and women themselves?" Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Five of Conversations with Candice! This season is all about love and relationships, but today we are widening the lens completely. We aren't just talking about romantic partnerships; we are honoring the massive emotional weight of parental wounds, family dynamics, and the grueling, necessary process of saving ourselves. Candice and co-producer Uncle Bode return to the chamber to answer heavy-hitting questions from the listener inbox. How do you stop letting the ghosts of your past dictate your present, and how do you find comfort in quiet places when you've been conditioned to run on pure chaos? Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1: A well-known couple of 30 years (with six grown children!) wants to start a podcast about their real marriage struggles but is paralyzed by the fear of public…

"I don't want to want things. I need to create space in my head, and not wanting is a way to create space in your head and find peace... If I don't know it exists, it doesn't exist." Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Four of Conversations with Candice! This season is all about love and relationships, but today we are pivoting entirely into our relationship with ourselves, our ambitions, and the toxic, relentless pace of the digital world. Candice is throwing out the cue cards to welcome a true internet pioneer, fashion icon, and accidental founder to the studio: the incredible Freddie Harrel. For years, Freddie was that girl, the baseline framework for UK fashion blogging, a Pinterest favourite, and one of only 50 Black women globally to raise over $1 million in venture capital to scale her startup hair brand, Rad Swan. But behind the Vogue headlines and the high-profile retail deals was a high-stakes ecosystem of investor calls, supply chain nightmares, hyperemesis, and an relentless digital pace that…

"I'm gonna need you to respect the want like it's a need. The way you need to breathe is the way you need to get to your knitting class. Because as women with busy lives, it's very easy to not respect the want... and when you disrespect the want, one day the want is gonna come down the road and fling your head back and disrespect you." Welcome back to Episode Three of Chapter Two of Conversations with Candice. This season is all about love and relationships, and let's be completely for real, the listener boxes are absolutely scalping me. Candice is back on a strict school pick-up time crunch today, but we are holding absolutely nothing back as we unpack four massive, deeply layered listener dilemmas. From analyzing our own vibrations to refusing early compromise in the dating pool, today we challenge standard societal milestones and talk about what happens when boundaries must stand on business. Co-producer Bode also steps out from behind the monitor to offer an essential patriarchal perspective on dating…

"Respect the want like it's a need. The way you need to breathe is the way you need to get to your class. Because as women with busy lives, it's very easy to not respect the want... and when you disrespect the want, one day it’s gonna come down the road and fling your head back and disrespect you." Bob’s your uncle if you’ve got an uncle called Bob! Welcome back to Episode Two of Chapter Two of Conversations with Candice. This season is all about love and relationships, and today Candice is flying solo in the studio to tackle three incredibly raw, layered, and jaw-dropping listener dilemmas. But before unlocking the inbox, today's episode starts with a heavy heart. Candice pays tribute to the legendary Kanya King OBE, founder of the MOBO Awards, who recently passed away from colon cancer. In honour of Kanya’s memory, maternal spirit, and legacy, we are shining a massive light on the life-saving work of Black Women Rising, a charity dedicated to supporting Black women navigating cancer care. Please see the…

"If there was any year we were gonna divorce, it was 2025... Any one of these days, one of us was sliding papers across this motherfucking table." Welcome back to Chapter Two of Conversations with Candice. We aren't easing you into the theme of love and relationships, we are dropping you straight into the deep end. This week, Candice is joined by her husband, co-producer, and partner of 14 years, Bode Aboderin for an episode that nearly didn't happen. Triggered by a powerful listener question about what a "10-year rebuild" actually looks like, Candice and Bode pull back the curtain on the curated edits of social media. They get brutally honest about the financial, mental, and emotional fires that pushed their marriage to absolute quicksand last year. This isn't a fairy tale; it's a raw look at what happens when the scaffolding crumbles, and why choosing each other daily is the hardest, most rewarding work there is. In this episode, we discuss: OOTP (Outfit Of The Pod): Uniqlo basics vs. Issey Miyake…

It's the final episode of chapter one of Conversations with Candice, and what a ride it's been. Before we close this chapter, Candice covers everything from the show's upcoming season break and how you can now join the conversation in Chapter Two, to answering your listener questions live for the very first time. In this episode, Candice tackles: Manifestation - why you probably don't believe in yours yet, and how to fix that Friendship trauma - the uncomfortable truth about seeking closure The hamster wheel vs. true evolution - and how Candice finally reached contentment She also reflects on why chapter one was never about transforming in 10 weeks and why the real rebuild takes years, not episodes. Chapter Two is coming, and the theme is… Love and relationships.! Get ready. Want to be part of the conversation? Send your questions or voice notes to: contact@conversationswithcandicepodcast.com Conversations with Candice is produced by Undeniable Productions. Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a…

In this penultimate episode of Chapter One, Candice is calling out the one thing keeping you from moving into the life you've been building, perfectionism. Using the metaphor of a house that's been renovated but never moved into, Candice breaks down why "snagging" (obsessively nitpicking every last detail of your life’s rebuild) is really just procrastination wearing a designer outfit. She shares her own experience - from the early days of this very podcast launching with sound only coming out of one ear, to the nine episodes it took to finally get blackout blinds - as proof that you learn by doing, not by waiting until everything is perfect. This episode covers: Why perfectionism is a safety net, not a standard How to know when enough is enough, on your own terms The guilt of silence after chaos and why calm feels so foreign Practicing completion over perfection How to celebrate wins without immediately moving the goalposts Candice's reminder this week: You don't need to fix your life in order to feel like…

We're almost at the end of Chapter One and this episode is the one you've been building towards. After weeks of laying foundations, clearing out the rubble, and doing the deep internal work, it's finally time to talk about self-expression. What it looks like to actually show up as yourself in the world. Not performing. Not seeking permission. Not dressing for someone else's approval. Just you, fully expressed. In this episode, Candice breaks down: Why knowing yourself and believing in yourself are two very different things The real cost of cosplaying as someone you're not (the fee vs. the fine) How dressing intentionally can be the fastest shortcut to your highest alignment Why self-expression is not about approval it's a statement, not a question The difference between "do you like who I am?" and "this is who I am" 3 journal prompts to take into the next 7 days If you've been here since Episode 1, this one's for you. The cocoon is done. It's time to come out. Conversations with Candice is a series for…

Episode 7: The Demolition Episode - What You Need to Destroy to Finally Grow Strap on your hard hat, because this episode of Conversations with Candice is calling in the demolition squad. We're past the halfway point of this chapter, and after covering a foundations, permission, planning, and structure it's time to talk about what you need to tear down in order to truly rebuild. Because growth doesn't just need effort. It needs space. In this episode, Candice gets raw and deeply personal about: Why most people's lives are designed for survival, not expansion. The courage it takes to demolish relationships that are holding you back (including parental ones). Why being a lukewarm bitch is the biggest threat to your glow-up. The inner enemy you can't demolish and how to beat them anyway. Why you sometimes must burn a bridge so you can never betray yourself again. How to stop energetically slumming it and start attracting people who match where you're going. + Candice's practical homework to help you identify…

In this raw, unfiltered episode, Candice ditches the cue cards and delivers one of the most powerful episodes yet. Inspired by pacing her husband through his first 10K in over a decade and her own breakthrough performance, Candice unpacks what it truly means to make your new life watertight. If you're mid-rebuild and starting to forget how capable you are, this episode is your reminder. In this episode we cover: Why your highest capability and comfort cannot coexist How fear uses your own mind to keep you small and how to override it The power of your personal data (emotional resilience, lived experience) and why you must trust it Why energy leaks; fear, self-doubt and limiting beliefs will destroy your rebuild before it's finished The truth about maintaining what you build, not just acquiring it How to go to the edge of your capability and discover a version of yourself you won't believe Key quote: "Safety can be spiritual strangulation." Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.…

We are DEEP in Chapter One of YOUR rebuild, and this week we're talking about Structure, the moment your private dreams go public. This is the stage where your new identity stops being internal and starts showing up in the real world for everyone to see, judge, and witness. In this episode, Candice breaks down why the fear you're feeling isn't really about failure, it's about exposure. She unpacks the three types of people in your audience (supporters, observers, and resistors), why resistors say more about themselves than about you, and how to keep building even when the noise gets loud. We're also covering Candice's practical tools to help you push through: The 48-Hour Rule Naming Your Audience The 10% Expansion Rule Replacing Approval with Evidence If your structure is going up and things are feeling tight, sticky, and scary; that's exactly where you're supposed to be. Keep building, babe. Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time…

We can't put a brick down yet! We need planning permission first. But in this episode, we're talking about the metaphorical kind. Episode 4 is all about the invisible permission committee living rent-free in your head. You know the one; parents, friends, society, social media, and yes... even ghosts (people who haven't been in your life for years). We're diving deep into why so many of us are engaging in self-betrayal just to keep the committee happy, and why it's time to hand in your resignation. Candice gets personal, from a two-year battle over unfollowing everyone on social media, to a nipple piercing she sat on for three years, to showing up to London Fashion Week in a crumpled black hoodie when the jacket stayed home. Real stories. Real growth. Real accountability. This week's self-reflection question is: Whose permission do you think you need to be the best version of you? And on the flip side: What would your dream life look like if you remembered you didn't need anyone's permission to build it?…

In this episode, we're getting into one of the most important steps of rebuilding your life: the blueprint. Not a vision board. Not a Pinterest aesthetic. The actual rules you're going to live by. Candice breaks down why so many of us are living lives designed by other people and what it really takes to start building one by your own intention. This episode is equal parts real talk and deep reflection, with a very honest detour about the people we may have to let go of in order to protect the life we're building. This episode covers: Why your blueprint is a rulebook, not a mood board The difference between standing on business and standing on a boundary Why we try to change our behaviour before defining our values (and why that never works) The power of giving yourself small permissions to outgrow the bullshit Why some of the hardest boundaries to hold are with people we love most Self-sabotage, self-worth, and giving yourself a fighting chance Questions to sit with this week: If I wasn't scared of…

I think it’s time to strengthen your foundations. Not in a dramatic way. Not all at once. But in the quiet, honest way where you admit something doesn’t feel as solid as it should. In this episode of Conversations with Candice, Candice talks about the part of growth no one really celebrates, the slow, unseen work that everything else depends on. Because a lot of the time, when things feel off… when you’re tired, overwhelmed, or constantly starting again… it’s not because you’re lazy. It’s not because you lack discipline. It’s because your foundations were rushed, skipped, or never fully built. This episode is a reminder that: • You don’t need to move faster, you might need to slow down • Burnout often starts long before you notice it • Stability is built in the quiet, unglamorous moments • You can’t build a life that feels good on foundations that don’t feel solid Candice shares why so many of us try to build quickly, what happens when we skip the groundwork, and how to start strengthening your life from the…

Welcome to the very first episode of Conversations with Candice. This episode is about something many people quietly think about… but rarely say out loud: What do you do when your life looks fine on the outside but doesn’t feel right on the inside? Episode 1 is a conversation about rebuilding your life. Not dramatically. Not by quitting everything overnight. But by understanding yourself differently. So many people reach a point where they are functioning, coping and showing up for everyone, yet feel disconnected from themselves. You can have the career, the relationship, the children, the responsibilities, and still feel tired in a way sleep doesn’t fix. This episode explores the emotional starting point of personal growth and self-awareness: the moment you realise you don’t need a new life, you need a new relationship with yourself. Candice talks about: • emotional burnout and mental load • feeling stuck even when life is “good” • losing identity in motherhood, relationships or responsibility • why…

Conversations with Candice is a podcast about rebuilding your life and the foundations no one ever talks about. Hosted by Candice Brathwaite, each episode explores identity, courage, boundaries, family, and the choices that shape the life you truly want. Launching March 16th, 2026. Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: contact@conversationswithcandicepodcast.com Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@conversationswithcandicepod Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Remain Unrealistic. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.