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This week’s episode comes straight from the DMs: “Can you please make a video about your partner sleeping soundly while you are crying next to him?” It’s a message Margarita gets often, and one she lived herself in her twenties. The internet’s answer is usually just “leave him,” but Margarita argues that skips the most important part: understanding what is actually happening. In this episode, she breaks down the pursue-withdraw dynamic, why men and women experience conflict so differently, and how anxious and avoidant partners are both trying to feel safe in opposite ways. She gets candid about emotional sovereignty, rumination, and handing your emotional weather to someone else. She also explains how to tell a healthy break from stonewalling, emotional overwhelm from emotional punishment, and the one simple test that shows whether it really is time to leave him.In this episode: 1. Three separate reasons this could be happening and they are all different 2. The pursue withdraw dynamic and why it is so…
This week’s episode comes straight from the DMs: “Can you please make a video about your partner sleeping soundly while you are crying next to him?” It’s a message Margarita gets often, and one she lived herself in her twenties. The internet’s answer is usually just “leave him,” but Margarita argues that skips the most important part: understanding what is actually happening. In this episode, she breaks down the pursue-withdraw dynamic, why men and women experience conflict so differently, and how anxious and avoidant partners are both trying to feel safe in opposite ways. She gets candid about emotional sovereignty, rumination, and handing your emotional weather to someone else. She also explains how to tell a healthy break from stonewalling, emotional overwhelm from emotional punishment, and the one simple test that shows whether it really is time to leave him.In this episode: 1. Three separate reasons this could be happening and they are all different 2. The pursue withdraw dynamic and why it is so…
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187: "Just Leave Him" Is the Laziest Relationship Advice on the Internet
ListenedThis week’s episode comes straight from the DMs: “Can you please make a video about your partner sleeping soundly while you are crying next to him?” It’s a message Margarita gets often, and one she lived herself in her twenties. The internet’s answer is usually just “leave him,” but Margarita argues that skips the most important part: understanding what is actually happening. In this episode, she breaks down the pursue-withdraw dynamic, why men and women experience conflict so differently, and how anxious and avoidant partners are both trying to feel safe in opposite ways. She gets candid about emotional sovereignty, rumination, and handing your emotional weather to someone else. She also explains how to tell a healthy break from stonewalling, emotional overwhelm from emotional punishment, and the one simple test that shows whether it really is time to leave him.In this episode: 1. Three separate reasons this could be happening and they are all different 2. The pursue withdraw dynamic and why it is so…
186: Stop Chasing. See What Happens When You Let Go.
ListenedEpisode mentioned: The Bossticks with Margarita NazarenkoPeep the comments on the IG Reel that sparked this conversation Books mentioned:Unbothered by Margarita NazarenkoThe New Rules by Margarita NazarenkoTo learn more about Margarita Nazarenko, visit https://www.margaritanazarenko.comWelcome back to Being Her, where today it’s getting juicy, spicy and real life. Margarita is launching her new Substack, Unfiltered with Margarita, and using a viral moment from her recent appearance on The Bossticks to unpack why so many women feel burnt out, frazzled and in constant conflict with the people they love. When a clip about her husband forgetting the diapers in Las Vegas blew up online, the comment section revealed something bigger: women are carrying loads that were never theirs to carry. In this episode, Margarita breaks down the psychology of over-functioning, the difference between caring and controlling, and why stepping back and letting natural consequences play out can transform your relationships. She…
185: You Already Know What You Need to Do.
ListenedJoin me in The Final Round of Unbothered WomanReceive emails from meYou already know what you need to do. You are just scared of what it is going to cost you.Margarita is back from her book tour in America, freshly moved into a half renovated house with two small children, and she has things to say.In this episode she shares the 10 mindset shifts that came up for her on the trip, the permissions she had to stop waiting for, and why the life you want is already inside you and has been the whole time.In this episode:1. You are probably not confused you are just scared of the consequences2. Stop collecting advice you already have the answer3. Distance tells you things proximity cannot4. Your next life requires disappointing someone from your current one5. Stop waiting to feel ready confidence only comes after evidence6. When you transform the old identity will fight back hard7. Stop making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions8. Your life changes when you stop negotiating with what you know9. There is…
184: The Woman Who Started Her Biggest Success At 52 — And Has Zero Regrets
ListenedJoin me for the Final round of The Unbothered Woman Ever - We start October 2nd. She was a fashion editor at GQ and Allure. She built a fashion line that dressed every A list celebrity. Then covid shut it all down.And at 52 years old she started over. And built the biggest success of her entire career.In this episode Margarita sits down with Mary Alice Haney in Hollywood and has the conversation every woman in her thirties, forties and fifties needs to hear. About reinvention. About the why not me mentality. About what it actually costs to build something.We talk about how Mary went from fashion editor to founder to podcaster, why confidence is not something you wait for it is something you fake until it becomes real, what nobody tells you about balancing motherhood and ambition, why your biggest success might still be ahead of you, and why your age and your children are not the excuses you think they are.If you have ever thought you are too old, too busy, too far behind, or that the window has closed, this…
183: If This Video Doesn’t Heal Your Relationship Anxiety, Block Me.
ListenedCheck out Hinge Get my Book: Unbothered The Art of Letting Go to Find YourselfJoin the Unbothered WomanWatch Detach My 3 Day IntensiveIf there is one episode you listen to this year on anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, and why you can never fully relax in a relationship, let it be this one.Your gut is not a wise little oracle. It is a nervous system shaped by everything that has ever happened to you. And if most of your experiences with love have involved pain, your gut has been calibrated to a setting that does not serve you when you are finally safe.In this episode Margarita breaks down the real difference between anxiety and intuition, why trusting your gut is damaging advice for anxiously attached women, and what to do in the moment when you genuinely cannot tell which one is speaking.In this episode:Why anxiety and intuition feel exactly the same from the insideWhy trusting your gut is dangerous advice for anxious womenHow your nervous system scans for danger even when you are safeWhy reassurance…